You really need a bootable external drive with the correct macOS which supports NVMe drives.
Using a second Mac download the macOS installer from here [https://support.apple.com/en-us/108382|Update macOS on Mac] and from here [https://support.apple.com/en-us/102662|How to download and install macOS].
Personally I like to create a bootable USB thumb drive. Make sure you reformat the thumb drive to GUID with a Journaled File System. Then copy the OS installer onto the drive and follow this [https://support.apple.com/en-us/101578|Create a bootable installer for macOS]
Now using this drive boot up your system accessing its copy of Disk Utility do you see the drive now?